WELCOME TO BARBARAH’S BLOG AS WE MOVE INTO THE CULMINATION OF ADVENT: THE BIRTH OF JESUS CHRIST
The community response to the Sandy Hook School tragedy demonstrates the best in people rising out of unimaginable events to embrace and support one another. In their own way they reflect what Mary experiences when she births Jesus Christ. She revels in his innocence, knows and feels the pain of his destiny and embraces everyone he draws toward him, creating a community in which all are welcome.
PROTECT YOUR HOME AS A HAVEN
We control our environments, so let’s make them as healing as possible. Here are a few suggestions:
1. Give television a rest. You’ll save your energy for positive acts of loving kindness, protect your children from the needless details and retelling of this tragedy, and maintain an atmosphere of normalcy in your home–a respite from everything that may be going on beyond your doors or being broadcast endlessly by TV news.
2. Take the advice of your children’s school counselor about answering your children’s questions. Nothing is more confusing for a child than to get several variations of what has happened and why. And above all, do not pressure children to talk about this. When ready, they will initiate the conversation. They need time to process the information they have, and to grieve in their own way.
3. Children’s Imagery is an effective tool during times of crisis and loss. Next week you’ll find an article on Healing Imagery for Children. The techniques suggested have been used with great success by Colette for children often experiencing death and violence in Israel, by Dr. Epstein in his private practice and by me with children at pre-school centers. In the meantime…
Spontaneous drawing is a gentle way for children–and adults–to express what they cannot put in words. Keep paper and crayons of many colors accessible. Resist analyzing the drawings. Simply ask the child if they’d like to tell you about their picture. For some children, much will gush out. For others, what they have drawn is all they are ready to express. It’s tempting to want to “get through” this and see evidence that your child is unscarred, but resist pushing for more than the child is ready to give. If you child wants to display the drawing(s) that’s fine. It’s also fine for them to keep the drawings private.
Keep track of the drawings. They tell a story and can be a valuable tool if your child seems stuck for weeks and needs help.
Christmas is a season of joyous reverence. The Advent/Christmas Audio Imagery as well as the Imagery for Sandy Hook School victims may comfort you and guide you.
Have a blessed Christmas. Barbarah
The Imagery for this fourth week of Advent through Christmas can be reached by clicking on the first item in Categories. If you have completed the exercises–or desire to help the victims of the Sandy Hook School tragedy–go to the post called Healing Imagery for Sandy Hook Victims and Their Families, the top item in Recent Posts.
P.S. With two unimaginable events calling for Imagery, with Advent and Christmas, we have not yet completed the Wilhelm Reich exercises, We Are Embodied Beings. I’m aiming for the Thursday before New Years, December 27, 2012. Hope you’ll join me. .