TO ALL THOSE WHO RECEIVED

THE OVERCOMING OF FEAR PREVIEW MATERIAL

Hi! DKOT’S book, It’s All About Overcoming Fear, is making progress. He’s now asking if you’d like to help someone else living with fear by commenting on the (4) questions below. Shy about sharing your experiences in public? Not a problem. You can send your reply in total privacy and request we do not use your full name.

(1) How many times have you used the Overcoming Fear exercise each week? _____

(2) When you used the exercise, did it relieve your fear? _____Yes _____No

If you answered No, do you plan to use it next time? _____Yes _____No

If no, was it because there was not enough privacy in most places to do the exercise? _____

or _____I stopped thinking about it.

(3) How are those who know you’re doing the exercise reacting

_____Supportive _____Skeptical _____Ignoring what you’re doing

Let’s take a few minutes to discover how it is from the other side: Watching someone experience fear as it expresses itself

I was at lunch with a colleague when I first observed the onset of his fear. At the time I had no idea what was happening. Everything seemed usual until a remoteness came over him and all the joy on his face changed. It was as if he was guarding against something I couldn’t see. Something invisible.

Within a few seconds or minutes — I really don’t know because it was as if time stopped — he pushed his chair back from the table, his posture taking on a leisurely casualness. It could be how relaxing — or even mimicking relaxation — helped him get through an episode. I do remember thinking whatever had occurred was over, until I saw the sadness was still in his eyes. He then asked for a check and we left the restaurant.

The drive back was silent, then general conversation. When I look back on that day, I lost an opportunity to learn more about what he had experienced. Not a good judgement on my part. And he didn’t open the conversation. Were years of potential healing missed? Perhaps. But for as long as there’s a now, there’s time. Be a risk taker. Ask the hard questions!

KNOWING OF YOUR EXPERIENCE CAN BE ALL IT TAKES FOR A READER TO CONTACT DKOT AND RECEIVE THE INSTRUCTIONS FOR THE EXERCISE. PLEASE REPLY!

Blessings, Barbara